Listen to and Control Your Self-talk

Guess who the number 1 person you communicate with on a daily basis is? It’s you! 

Our minds are in constant state of self-talk. These internal conversations characterize how we view the world and influence every part of our lives, our relationships, our achievements, our attitudes and ultimately our degree of happiness. If this internal dialogue is negative and it’s focusing on your faults, mistakes, weaknesses, insecurities or fears, it will be virtually impossible to feel good about yourself and advance your life forward. Further more sustained negative thinking can have a detrimental affect on your health and overall quality of life. If on the other hand your self-talk is positive concentrating on your strengths, blessings, successes and opportunities, your self image will be vibrant. Your obstacles won’t seem so insurmountable and as a whole, your life will become more enjoyable and gratifying. 

The great news is that you can control what you think. You can replace any negative thought with a more positive or productive affirmation. You’ll soon find that the process gets easier with sustained practice. 

The first step towards improving your thoughts is to become aware of you internal conversations and really listen to your inner voice. Are your thoughts positive or negative? Do they lift you up or bring you down? Do they inspire or do they impede? Be aware of this internal dialogue and its content. Make sure it stays positive. When it becomes negative take a few minutes to analyze the underlying reasons for your pessimistic thinking. If you catch yourself thinking negatively, you can stop your thought process midstream, by literally saying to yourself, “STOP!” Saying this aloud has power. You’re bound to notice the frequency and the circumstances of these destructive conversations.

Every time I catch myself thinking about one of my failures, faults or mistakes, I have a firm conversation with myself. Then using my self control, I change the subject. I confess that I amy have to repeat this self-talk technique 20 times before I stop thinking about a major mistake or failure I’ve made. But as every challenge I’ve faced this far in my life, I’ve not it allowed it negatively impact my overall out look.

Here’s my challenge to you: Let me encourage you to start being aware of your self-talk. That’s the key, you’ve got to be aware of your self-talk. Determine which conversations are helpful and which ones are harmful. Be mindful that your internal conversations not only affect how you view yourself, but also how you react and respond to others. Remember we all make mistakes we all have setbacks we all experience failures. The key is to learn from every experience and use your self control to stop thinking about them.  It is only then that we can take positive steps to achieve our personal and professional best. 

Here’s my final thought: you can’t control you life if you don’t control your thoughts!

To Your Success!

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