How to Get Your Significant Other to Do A 3 Way

3 Way is The Best Way

My very first time I was so nervous, my palms were sweating and I couldn't believe it was going to happen, my very first 3 way. The feeling of excitement, the anticipation, the thoughts of what if it goes well or what if it doesn't. Will she agree to do it again?

The Jig Is Up

Ok ok ok I must confess if you were looking for a guide to a 3 way other than a 3 way phone call this blog probably won't help with those "other" ideas. At this point you have an emotion of sadness, relief or curiosity. Well either way this will be a NO HYPE POST. If you are still ready to learn about the power of a 3 way phone call let's get into it.

Why a 3 Way Is Important

I'm writing this blog because many times a person may see an opportunity presentation and depending on which spouse you are sitting with can produce different results. Typically in most relationships there is the decision maker spouse and there is the supporter spouse. If you find yourself with the decision maker spouse, then you have a higher chance of getting the group decision.

This is if you find yourself with the spouse who is the support. Usually the spouse who is supportive will get excited, however won't make the decision for the group. They will go home with excitement and if decision maker doesn't side with them, then you are chopped liver.

This is where a 3 way call comes into play to help both parties understand what they are seeing and not jump to any conclusions.  

The 3 Way Golden Rules 

Before we can effectively do a 3 way phone call we must understand that there are rules to make it a success. 

#1 Find out information about there spouse. Who knows them better than the person they live with. This will help increase your chances of connecting and helping the couple.

#2 Train the spouse on what to say prior to them speaking with there spouse. If you do not do this the call will not happen and you have no chance of helping impact their lives.

#3 Teach them to be quite when you are speaking with their spouse as you do not want to interrupt the expert.

#4 Respect the decision of both parties. Wether they join or not respect is key. You never know if they will come back around later.

#5 Ask for referrals. You never leave without asking for referrals, because they can lead you to someone great!

All The Joys Of A 3 Way

When you think about doing a 3 way phone call with the spouse who is upbeat and the excitement is flowing they can be totally fun. I recently did a 3 way phone a with a new team member and his wife. She saw our product and immediately got excited. I could tell there was some apprehension thought. I asked her what she liked best about what she saw? She replied, "It looks like tons of fun." I said, "Yea I agree!" She asked a few questions for understanding and after answering them she said it was way different than what I thought and better!

See if we hadn't got her on the phone she would have had a false understanding and not been able to see the world with us! It's best we got them started!

Here's My Challenge To You: When you are faced with an objection of I have to talk to my spouse about it. Share the ideas from this post to help educate the couple to make the best decision for them! Get a 3 way phone call done this week!

Here's My Final Thought: This is not a 100% Guarantee that if you do a 3 way phone call that everyone is going to join you, but what is true is that if you don't do them you won't be able to help the excited spouse live the life of their dreams. 

To Your Success!

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Top 5 Ways To Stay Motivated

The Struggle Is Real: Motivation The Best 5 Ways To 

When I was a teenager I could hear my father yell out to his football players, "Stay solid and disciplined. Don't let anyone stop you rom getting to the Quarterback!" I always wondered how he was able to get the best out of his players and make them better. This fascinated me as a young man. As I got older and started my journey into business I would always reflect back to hearing my father saying stay solid and disciplined, don't let anyone stop you. As good as those words were, they didn't seem to resonate with me during tough times. I would often find myself getting down and feeling sorry when things wouldn't go my way. It wasn't until I got a coach to help me understand the things that I needed to do in order to inoculate the staying motivated feeling. 

I'm going to share with you some of my private coaching and the 5 best ways to stay motivated.

1. Focus On Your Vision 

What is the vision you have set for yourself? Is it to be the best parent? Is it to be the best coach? Is it to be the top income earner in your company? Whatever your vision is you cannot lose sight of it! The old saying is without a vision the people will parish. So I asked my coach why am I not staying focused on my activities to grow in my business? He replied, "Randy if you are not doing the things you need to do on a daily basis to grow, it is simple.... You lack vision." This was tough for me to swallow, however I knew that if I wanted to get better then I had to listen. I asked, "How do I get better? How do I get vision?" He laughed and said, "You don't GET vision, it's in you! You just have to find it and focus on the things that you desire." 

Here is the exercise he gave me: 15 Minutes in the morning, shut off your phone and any sound that is going on. Sit down and do some meditation with your eyes close, really seeing what you want in the future. The best parent! The best coach! The top income earner! Simply focus on what you want and the feeling it will bring to accomplish it!

2. Affirmations

The majority of people don't do affirmations. Most people are unsure as to what they are and if they work? Affirmations are the things that you say aloud that you want to become allowing the universe to help you to achieve those things. I questioned if this was even possible and if it was how come everyone wouldn't do it? The real question was why would I not do it? If coach said do it, that is exactly what I did!

Here is how I start every affirmation: I am so happy and grateful I am ________________________

3. Attitude of Gratitude

Instead of looking at how far you have to go, look at how far you have come! When struggling with the disease compare-itis you have to know that everyone started from the same place, the beginning! Every great person at one point or another sucked. So know that you have to suck to get good and get good to become great. Think about what you are grateful for and all the things you have in your life.

The attitude of gratitude will help you to grow and see your vision clearer.  Gratitude helps put things into perspective and what is important in life.

4. Surrounded by Greatness

Who are you listening to on a daily basis? You become the average of the top 5 people you hang around with on a daily basis. In the beginning of starting my business I heard this concept. Well I didn't have millionaire friends to go play golf with or go to lunch with, so what do you do? The advice I got was worth gold! The people I started to surround myself with were on audio and video. You can listen to, read or watch whoever you want to.

It is 2015 you can easily get on Youtube, Facebook or Amazon and find the people who want what you have. Always surround yourself with greatness!

5. Believe You Can

Knowing that it is possible to achieve greatness in any field you want is one thing. It is another thing to believe you can! The first step on any journey is to believe you can, because if you don't why would a person start? Without a ounce of belief there is no vision there is nothing! This is the heart of where it all begins is the belief that it possible for you to be the best parent, the best coach, the top income earner!

Believe you can do anything you put your mind to! You can do it!

Here's my Challenge to you: It is easy to read this blog and do the typical thing...... Nothing! You may read this and say I can't do all that. Well the challenge is to embrace change, embrace challenge, embrace something new. Don't hesitate and postpone your destiny. You may have to start out with one of these and slowly work your way to doing all five. Which ever one or two you choose, do them for 21 or more days straight!

Here's my Final Thought: The successful do what the unsuccessful are unwilling to do. Don't allow motivation or the lack there of to have you on an emotional roller coaster. 

To Your Success!

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Strengthen Your Personal Initiative

Your personal Initiative is the spark that initiates your actions. Without personal initiative you cannot be successful. 

Napoleon Hill talked about personal initiative at length in his 9th principal of success. He said, “Success is something you must achieve, without someone telling you what to do or why you should do it.” 

Where Does Success Come From

Success comes to those who are proactive. Instead of drifting through life doing only what is required, successful people do the extra things that give direction to their goals and bring more fulfillment to there lives. 

No one told Fred Smith to start FedEx. He started it by using his own personal initiative. No one told Sergey Brin or Larry Page why they should start Google, they did it using their own personal initiative. No one pushed me everyday to do the things that were required of me to achieve my goals. It was the consistent use of my personal initiative that allowed me to achieve them. 

No matter what your goal is becoming a remarkable parent, one of your companies most valued employees, an outstanding athlete, a top producing sells person or the owner of your own business. If you’re going to be successful, you must use your personal initiative to do the little things required of you to succeed. It won’t happen any other way. 

Personal initiative is more than a requirement to achieving your goals. It’s about taking time to do the little things that make your life and the lives of others both at work and at home more enjoyable. It’s doing the simple things like picking up your dirty clothes, washing the windows or emptying the over flowing trashcan. It’s taking 3 minutes to clean the coffee mugs in the office sink. It’s taking time to express your genuine gratitude to someone who did something for you. It’s offering to help a friend in need. 

How Will It Benefit You?

In a sense your personal initiative is noticing and being aware of the things that need to be done without being asked. 

I firmly believe that the only way you will have personal initiative to do the big things, is to strengthen it by first doing the little things. Every big success is made up of a great number of little successes. Each requiring personal initiative. Many are so insignificant that you’ll be the only personal who notices. But in the end isn’t that all that matters? After all it is you that has the deep yearning in your heart to achieve a goal. You’re the one responsible for taking action and making decisions. And you’re the only one who can change course if required. 

The use of personal initiative has more benefits than meets the eye. First you’ll become more respected. People who use their personal initiative are well regarded and have greater influence. Next it will build your self-esteem. No other method for building self-esteem is more effective than using your personal initiative to do the little things you know you should do. And last it’ll help you advance your career. People who are consistent in using their personal initiative to advance their careers are those at the top of the pay scale in their profession. 

Here’s my challenge to you: This is your opportunity to step up your game and distinguish yourself from the growing number of apathetic people. This is your chance to use your unique talents and skills to achieve the things that are important to you. Don’t let the lethargic environment around you keep you from stetting yourself to be your very best. Start by doing the things that require personal initiative. As you build your confidence in doing the little things stretch yourself to do the big things. Continue this process and allow each success to build upon the prior one. 

Here’s my final thought: Now is the time to put your life in gear and go conquer your dreams! 

To Your Success!

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Choose Your Friends Wisely

When I was a kid growing up my mom gave me all sorts of advice. Today I can still hear her saying, Randy choose your friends carefully. Don’t get mixed up with the wrong group.” 

Momma Knows 

Mom knew that children were easily influenced by their peers and that if I ran with the wrong crowd, they’d have a negative influence on my life. Mom’s lesson holds true for children, teens, college students and adults. 

You Circle of Influence

It is well documented that our fundamental beliefs and attitudes are greatly influenced by the people we allow into our lives. If we associate with people that who gossip, we will likely gossip. If we’re around people who swear or use inappropriate language, we’re likely to exhibit the same behavior. 

After 25 years of research Dr. David Mcclelland of Harvard University concluded that the choice of a negative reference group, was in itself enough to condemn a person to failure and under achievement in life. Think about that! Your associations are some of the most powerful factors determining who become and what you accomplish in your life. 

Hangout with the Right People

As an example if you hangout with pessimistic people, who are critical of you, there negative comments will likely impact how you view your abilities and your self-image. Almost 4 years ago I hear Jim Rohn say, “You will become the combined average of the 5 people you hang around the most.” You’ll have their combined attitude, health and income. 

At first I challenged this could be true. Today I know it is undeniably accurate. Recognizing this truth, how do we use it to our advantage? It’s simple, if we want to advance our lives, personally or professionally, we must associate with people who will have a positive influence on our lives. 

Do you play sports? How about board or card games? Do you notice how you step up your game when you play with better players? When we associate with others who have a greater skill set or who have achieved more we are challenged. It brings out the best in us and inspires us to do better.

Observing and modeling someones positive example, will help us reach new heights. We’re not just talking about sports and games here. This applies to everything we do! Surrounding ourselves with optimistic and uplifting people has a direct effect on our demeanor, confidence level and performance. 

Here’s my challenge to you:  Take 10 minutes right now! Think about the people you spend time with on a regular basis. At home, in the work place and in a social context. Who are they? Which ones radiate a positive influence? Which ones transmit a negative influence? If some of your friends exert a negative influence, begin to slowly reduce the amount of time you spend in those relationships. If your family members say negative or discouraging things to you, schedule a time to have a conversation. Help them understand how their statements are damaging and ask them to focus on encouraging you, rather than tearing you down. If your work place is filled with negative people, find a new place to work. 

Life is too short to spend it in a negative environment.

Here’s my final thought: Whether you are consciously aware of it our not everyone you associate with on a regular basis IS influencing your life. the question is, whether they are a good or bad influence.

To Your Success!

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Listen to and Control Your Self-talk

Guess who the number 1 person you communicate with on a daily basis is? It’s you! 

Our minds are in constant state of self-talk. These internal conversations characterize how we view the world and influence every part of our lives, our relationships, our achievements, our attitudes and ultimately our degree of happiness. If this internal dialogue is negative and it’s focusing on your faults, mistakes, weaknesses, insecurities or fears, it will be virtually impossible to feel good about yourself and advance your life forward. Further more sustained negative thinking can have a detrimental affect on your health and overall quality of life. If on the other hand your self-talk is positive concentrating on your strengths, blessings, successes and opportunities, your self image will be vibrant. Your obstacles won’t seem so insurmountable and as a whole, your life will become more enjoyable and gratifying. 

The great news is that you can control what you think. You can replace any negative thought with a more positive or productive affirmation. You’ll soon find that the process gets easier with sustained practice. 

The first step towards improving your thoughts is to become aware of you internal conversations and really listen to your inner voice. Are your thoughts positive or negative? Do they lift you up or bring you down? Do they inspire or do they impede? Be aware of this internal dialogue and its content. Make sure it stays positive. When it becomes negative take a few minutes to analyze the underlying reasons for your pessimistic thinking. If you catch yourself thinking negatively, you can stop your thought process midstream, by literally saying to yourself, “STOP!” Saying this aloud has power. You’re bound to notice the frequency and the circumstances of these destructive conversations.

Every time I catch myself thinking about one of my failures, faults or mistakes, I have a firm conversation with myself. Then using my self control, I change the subject. I confess that I amy have to repeat this self-talk technique 20 times before I stop thinking about a major mistake or failure I’ve made. But as every challenge I’ve faced this far in my life, I’ve not it allowed it negatively impact my overall out look.

Here’s my challenge to you: Let me encourage you to start being aware of your self-talk. That’s the key, you’ve got to be aware of your self-talk. Determine which conversations are helpful and which ones are harmful. Be mindful that your internal conversations not only affect how you view yourself, but also how you react and respond to others. Remember we all make mistakes we all have setbacks we all experience failures. The key is to learn from every experience and use your self control to stop thinking about them.  It is only then that we can take positive steps to achieve our personal and professional best. 

Here’s my final thought: you can’t control you life if you don’t control your thoughts!

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Become The Best at What You Do

Imagine if you were the best at what you do!

The best sells person, the best student, the best dad, the best mom, the best cashier, the best company president, the best insurance agent. I’m talking about THE BEST! How would your life change? How would you feel about yourself? What effects would you being the best have on the people around you? The fact is you can be the best at whatever you do. As long as becoming the best is truly important to you. This doesn’t mean thinking, yea it’d be cool if I were the best at what I do or of course I’d like to be the best, who wouldn’t? 

While most people might say they would like to be the best at what they do, very few people less than 1% are willing to do what is required to be the best. The best of the best are the best for a reason.

First you must identify the little things that if done correctly will allow you to perform at the highest level. The next step is to strive for excellence and master those little things. Measuring and refining what you do along the way. 

After deciding to become a Network Marketing Professional I strive for excellence to master the little things required to be a successful Network Marketing Professional. Day after day week after week and year after year, I continue to refine everything from the communication I use to the hours I make calls. I focused on every little detail. From the opening of my presentations to remembering the name of my clients kids. 

Just as olympic athletes master the fundamentals of their sports, so does anyone who wants to be the best of the best. They are the one’s who work the hardest at mastering the little things. Napoleon Hill said, “Have a well developed sense of observation regarding the smallest details and know your craft, from the smallest detail to the greatest.” 

As you begin to implement the little things you learn stretch yourself everyday to be your very best! Push yourself harder than you’ve ever pushed before. Regardless of your age, education or background, if you strive for excellence to be the very best at what you do, you’ll make great strides in becoming the person you need to be to get what you want.

Here’s my challenge to you: What is really important to you? If you want to be a great parent, discover the little things that great parents do. Then do them with consistency each day. If you want to reach the top of your career, then identify the little things that top performers in your field do and strive to master them. As you strive for excellence to do your best make sure you measure your progress. You’ll never be the best of the best, if you’re not measuring and refining your progress. 

As you see yourself making measurable progress be sure to recognize yourself for even the smallest of accomplishments. Get excited and consider the possibilities of becoming the best at what you do. 

Here’s my final thought: To be the best at what you do, you must push yourself and stretch yourself to do what others are unwilling to do the best of the best are the best for a reason.

To Your Success!

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Believe You Can

Success requires a can do attitude like the little blue engine who proved in the classic children's book the Little Blue Engine Who Could.

In 1930 Watty Piper personified a small engine that truly believed she could pull a long train over a steep hill. Constantly repeating her mantra, “I think I can, I think I can, I think I can!” She succeeded. Very soon the train was over the hill going down the other side. 

Becoming Aware of the Beliefs

How can you be more like the Little Blue Engine Who Could and reach your potential?

Your first step is to wipe out limiting beliefs. We all harbor them. John Assaraf in Murray Smith reported in their book The Answer, that by the time that children reach the age of 17 they have heard no you can’t a 150,000 times and yes you can only 5,000 times.

Combining mistakes and failures with a focus on faults and weaknesses in an environment of negative people, creates a rich breeding ground for self doubt. 

Perhaps the most common of all limiting beliefs is the idea that you can’t reach a certain level of success. On a scale of 1 to 10 you may think you can make it to a 7, but not a 10. If someone else has reached a 10, why can’t you? Really Think about it! Why can’t you? 

Once the seed of a limiting belief is planted in the mind, it is generally fertilized with negative self-talk. When the internal dialogue gets really going you say things like,”I can’t do anything right or I can never do that or I can’t make good decisions.” Many of these self limiting statements are simply excuses for something someone would rather not do or fearful of doing. For instance, someone could say, I could never stand up in front of people and give a presentation. Unless they literally can’t speak they are deceiving themselves by making such a statement. The more you make these kinds of false statements the more you’ll believe them. Soon you’ll experience a downward spiral of negativity in your life. 

How to get Beyond the Barriers

To get beyond the barriers of self-belief ask yourself this question: If I were paid a million dollars to figure out a way to do this task could I do it? If your answer is yes, then with focus and hard work you are capable of eliminating negative beliefs. In your quest to achieve your goals be confident in who you are and in your abilities! Don’t allow self defeating thoughts to limit your opportunities or prevent you from searching for solutions. Reach for the stars, give all you’ve got and don’t look back. 

Here’s my challenge to you: Starting today beware of the times you say, I can’t or any other self-limiting statement. When you find yourself saying such negative things immediately challenge yourself to do the very thing you said you couldn’t do. As you begin doing the very things you said you could not do your confidence will grow and you’ll feel great about the person you’re becoming. 

Here’s my final thought: If you believe you can, you can! If you believe you can’t you can’t!

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